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Stand By Me

A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving


About The Book

Compassionate, groundbreaking, and urgently needed, Stand By Me provides caregivers with new ways to juggle the responsibilities and emotional ups and downs of caregiving.

As the founder of the only devoted Caregivers Clinic in the country, clinical psychologist Dr. Allison Applebaum is no stranger to the intensity of being an unpaid, untrained family caregiver. She also understands that it is often the strength and well-being of these very caregivers—the parents, children, partners, siblings, and friends of patients—that are the true linchpin determining each patient’s illness experience.

This book puts the practical tools and transformative support of the Caregivers Clinic in your hands, empowering you to provide your loved one with the best quality of life and care possible, while promoting your own wellbeing. The book covers crucial topics including:
-Getting the most from any healthcare system
-Productive advance care planning
-Navigating changing roles and relationship dynamics
-Finding meaning and purpose in the caregiving experience

Stand By Me draws on a decade of clinical and research experience as well as Dr. Applebaum’s personal journey as the primary caregiver for her own father, legendary composer Stanley Applebaum, at the end of his life. Dr. Applebaum recognizes caregivers for who they truly are: invaluable healthcare team members. Offering critical insight and takeaways, Stand By Me is an essential resource throughout your caregiving journey.

About The Author

Allison J. Applebaum, PhD, is a clinical psychologist specializing in psycho-oncology, the field devoted to supporting the mental health of all individuals affected by cancer. She is an associate attending psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSK), and an associate professor of psychology in psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine in New York City. Dr. Applebaum is the founding director of the Caregivers Clinic at MSK. The Caregivers Clinic is the first of its kind and provides targeted psychosocial support to caregivers—family members and friends—of patients receiving cancer care at MSK.

Product Details

  • Publisher: S&S/Simon Element (February 27, 2024)
  • Length: 320 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781668005804

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Raves and Reviews

"Stand by Me is a powerful and insightful look into the realities of family caregiving in America. Dr. Applebaum blends her lived experience with deep professional expertise to offer a practical framework for navigating the challenges that shape caregiving, making the physical and emotional work of caregiving more sustainable." - Jason Resendez, President and CEO, the National Alliance for Caregiving

“This is a must-read for caregivers, in what is almost always a difficult, meaningful, or confusing time. Stand by Me is a perfect mix of caregiver memoir, love letter, how-to-guide, self-help and policy treatise on the U.S.’s approach to caregiving and workplace policies that facilitate care all wrapped into one. It will help caregivers feel less alone and more empowered in their own caregiving relationship, with the health system, and as an advocate for a different national approach to work, family, and care.” —Vicki Shabo, Senior Fellow, New America

"In combining powerful storytelling with practical tools and strategies, Dr. Applebaum has highlighted the issue of caregiver burden while providing us a sustainable way forward. Stand By Me is a treasure for caregivers, their care recipients and supporters, and all the rest of us who will someday need this book." —Jessica Zitter, MD, MPH, Founder, Reel Medicine Media

"Thoughtful, sensitive, highly practical, easy to read and based in personal and professional experience, Stand By Me is a book to be put to use by family carers and one that will also help them in their quest for meanings that can keep them going." —Arthur Kleinman, author of The Soul of Care

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